22 uncomfortable truths about life that (almost) nobody likes to say
1. Live your life to the fullest
Life is finite and therefore so precious. In this awareness lies an incredible power. Let us not wait any longer, let us start today, with what is dear to us.
2. Sometimes it's too late
Too late for apologies. Or too late to be more loving with those around us or to spend more time with our loved ones. Let's remember to give more time to those we love because they won't always be with us.
3. Love is not enough
Some people just don't fit together. Their experiences, patterns, and needs bite, fight against each other and make the relationship a place of hell. Love as a sole force does not solve problems.
4. Self-love is not enough
We are social beings. We need others. Grow in their warmth like plants in the sun. Absolute independence is an illusion.
5. Talent and luck are often not enough
We can't get far without a lot of work, discipline, and perseverance. The courage to get up again and again after setbacks also brings us to success.
6. We do our best and still fail
Because our best was not (yet) good enough. Or because luck has not been on our side so far. Many things are beyond our control.
7. More money does not make me happy
Money can be a good motivator, but not the goal. To be happy in the long run, you need things like family, friends, health, learning, and new experiences.
8. Forced happiness runs away quickly
As Anthony de Mello wrote, "Happiness is like a butterfly. Chase after it and it escapes you; sit down and it settles on your shoulder." Happiness is only possible in the here and now - by saying yes to everything that is.
9. We can't please everyone
If everyone is more important than you and if we always put our needs aside for others, then we will eventually fall by the wayside.
10. Too high expectations harm us
Satisfaction, career, finances, relationship ... Everything must fit best. And be presentable. The consequence: We put ourselves under enormous pressure. The result: we concentrate mainly on mistakes, successes are hardly seen. We suffer. Less is sometimes more.
11. Actions speak louder than words
Other people decide whether to trust us by judging our actions - not our words. Because words say who we would like to be. Actions show who we really are.
12. Life will never be perfect and never free from pain
Life crises or traumatic events are inevitable for many of us. The good news is that grief, pain, and suffering lead to increased emotional awareness and promote our personal growth. No Pain, no gain.
13. Life is not fair
It's not unfair either. It is not against us. It just doesn't care. Anyway, life doesn't mean it personally, and that's somehow liberating too.
14. What we say is essential.
Words have power. They can shame, make hearts bleed, and even trigger conflicts and wars. Or they can build others up, give them strength and joy.
15. The past is unchangeable
Life is now. So let us no longer worry about the future or grieve over the past. The only thing that matters is what is presented to us at this moment.
16. We cannot change or save other people
It is not in our power what another does or does not do. Sometimes we have tried everything and we can do nothing but hope. And sometimes we have to leave when staying destroys us.
17. who says: "I can't do it" - doesn't want to
What would happen if we stopped saying "I can't" and replaced this statement with "I won't", which means "I don't want to". In this way, it becomes clear that a decision has been made. This is how conviction and dedication arise. At this point, we take responsibility for ourselves. 18.
18. What we do not allow cannot let us go
We can push our feelings out of consciousness and thus no longer perceive them. However, they are still there and determine our behavior and experience from the subconscious. In other words, what we repress catches up with us later.
19. No one saves us - except ourselves
No knight, no angel, no spiritual guide, no psychiatrist, no partner. We can very well use help now and then, but in the end, we can only help ourselves and follow our intuition. The answers are always within us, not with others. 20.
20. We have too little time because we waste it.
"It is not little time that we have, but it is much time that we do not use," said Seneca. What if we stopped more often, paused and did more of what really matters to us?
21. The crucial things in life happen when we give up control
We fall asleep, we can love, we can enjoy, we can follow our intuition, laugh freely, cry without shame.
22. There is no right way
No matter how well we reflect on our choices, weigh all the variants and think through different possibilities - we will never be sure that we have made the best choice. The good news is that we are free to do whatever feels right for us with our lives. We are allowed to experiment and try things out.
